How many times has that thought occurred to you? You know, the moment when you scratch your head and think, "I could have sworn that I had already learned this lesson...yet here I am in familiar territory once again, staring a new version of the same experience dead in the eye. DAMN!" It happens to all of us. Heck, some of us spend our whole lives trying to pass the same test, over and over. However, we can't learn a lesson until we understand what the lesson is.
The reason we get caught in cycles of repeating a particular lesson over and over again is not because we are incapable of learning it, it is because we are either confused about its purpose or resistant to it. This is an indication that the lesson comes with realities or truths that we are not ready or willing to embrace. Let's consider an example. Take Joe. He's successful, handsome, charming. He has a new, hot girlfriend every few months and eventually the same thing happens to him. The relationship ends in him entertaining friends with stories of him being taken advantage of, not connecting on more than a physical level, not finding "mate-like" qualities in her...leaving him frustrated and confused as to how someone with his profile could possibly have this much trouble finding a life partner. In his mind, he may think the moral of the lesson is: HOT CHICKS ARE BAD FOR YOU, THEY ARE ALL GOLDIGGERS, LUSHES AND SELF-ABSORBED DINGBATS...STAY AWAY FROM THEM AND CHOOSE AN UGLY GIRL.
If he believes this is the lesson, of COURSE he would be resistant to it. No guy wants an ugly girl. So he repeats the same cycle...and he will until he can go deeper and discover the real lesson, which probably has more to do with learning patience and self-control. In other words, he CAN find the attractive woman who ALSO has substance, but that would require him to resist pursuing EVERY hot girl he sees and integrating other front-line qualifications that will equate to him having less girlfriends, yet of higher probability for long term interest. Lessons are part of the grand design for how to help us achieve our highest degree of personal fulfillment. At times they require us to investigate their meaning in order to "pass the test".
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