One of the most frustrating phases to endure in life is the time period that exists between realizing that something isn't quite right with a relationship, situation or dynamic and pinpointing exactly what that is. This stage could last for an hour, a week, even months...leaving us with this gnawing "knowing" that something is awry...yet still veiled from us. Here's the tricky part...this issue will still take up the same amount of resources while unnamed and won't move until it can be found and tagged.
One day we might come home and sense a subtle odor, for example. We ask, "Does anyone smell that?"..."Smell What?" comes the reply. We shake it off as our own faulty nostrils. A day later, we just can't shake the feeling that something stinks. We walk around trying to hone in on the place it seems to be most intense, investigating the source of the stench. Still, no real clues. This could go on and on for days, slowly spreading to other areas of the house. The point is...if the situation is allowed to progress like this for long, we might have to burn the damn house down before we locate the source of the odor.
The key here is that getting that little feeling that something isn't quite right is your intuition helping you along your way. The goal is to shorten the discovery time. There are three reasons why this is important 1) the longer we spend not really knowing the source of our pain, the more stuff we will make up or imagine as possible scenarios, creating problems that may not currently exist 2) until we can "diagnose" the problem, we can't treat it 3) it will continue to grow without treatment and, eventually, begin to contaminate healthy and positive areas of our lives. So...the next time you start getting that feeling that there's a problem...start digging so you can more quickly say, "AHA! THIS is what's been stinkin' up the place!"
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