We have all been there...found ourselves disoriented by some form of emotion. Sometimes it is a wave of sadness that crashes over us that seems to come from nowhere, yet sweeps us up nonetheless. Sometimes is an unnamed disquiet in our spirit that rises to the surface, threatening our emotional stability. Sometimes it is a rumbling storm of frustration and irritation that shakes and stirs us into an internal frenzy. Sometimes it is a longing so desperate that it haunts us. Sometimes it is our inner voice calling out for us to listen to what it has to say. Sometimes it is a fear so powerful that we become paralyzed by it. Yes...we can all relate to these myriad emotions, and most unfortunately, we can also all relate to doing our very best to ignore and stuff them.
Why not? Stuffing seems easier, right? After all, won't that wave of sadness finally break and be drawn back into the sea it came from if we ignore it? Won't that disquiet in our spirit finally blend into the background noise of our lives and become part of the choir instead of a soloist that demands our attention? Won't our frustration or irritation wane if we just brush it off? Won't our yearning fade if we sit with it long enough? Can't we hide from our fears and pretend they don't exist? Hmm...
The problem with stuffing and ignoring our feelings is that this prevents us from ever truly understanding and processing them.If we don't know where the sadness comes from, how can we know that the wave won't come in day after day...and how do we know we are not projecting our pain onto the wrong source? If we don't address and name the disquiet in our spirit, how can we be freed from it? If we don't get to the core of our frustration and irritation, how can we assuage it and keep it from bubbling over into the rest of the good parts of our lives? If we don't embrace our fears and face them, won't we by hiding forever? If we can imagine ourselves as having an emotional "inbox" it is likely that the damn thing would be stacked up to our eyeballs. Yet, if we canstart processing the stuff that gets dropped in their daily by life and keep the inbox light, we will be able to handle the big assignments that come our way. It is OUR RESPONSIBILITY to manage our own emotions...don't let them cost you more than you can afford or are willing to pay.
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I've learned if I don't take the time to process my emotions and understand the root cause for them ... I end up acting on them. Acting on the emotion before process always results in a regret. :(
Posted by: Chas | March 23, 2012 at 07:41 AM